Leaders must learn how to take risks- calculated risks, of course.
When assuming these risks, it is always helpful to be armed with
sufficient knowledge and with the tools for confronting criticism and
the fear of failure.
So then- how does one go about building his or her resilience? We recommend that you take note of the following:
1. Flattery and criticism neither add nor detract from your value.
You have innate value, which forms part of your essential being
and no one can take this away from you. Therefore, everything you do,
say or think has value. It has value because it comes from you.
2. There is no such thing as errors, only results.
If you see some warning signs that things are not going how you
would like, or that your boss is not particularly happy with your work-
do not worry- this does not mean all is lost. It is simply a
matter of acknowledging that the approach you are taking is not yielding
the intended benefits and it is time to switch things up.
3. No one is perfect.
Sometimes, we forget things or we do not realize there are
better techniques out there or we are behaving unconsciously. We are not
perfect. What does this mean? Well, we can tell you what it does not mean. This does not mean that we can act irresponsibly and blame it on our unconcious. No. What we can
do, however, is give ourselves a wider margin of error, while at the
same time improving upon our self-awareness and realizing that we can
choose to move forward in a more intelligent fashion.
4. You have the capacity to CHOOSE to take the smarter path.
Capitalize on the experience you have accumulated thus far and
DO NOT return to old habits which lead nowhere. Each error brings you
closer to a more perfect union of knowledge, good habits and skill which
will help you accomplish whatever may be your task at hand. You already
have what you need to accomplish your goals- take some time for
self-reflection. With each day you become more knowledgeable and this
will help you to make smarter decisions.
5. Do not be afraid to ask for help.
Confused? Have a question? Do not be afraid to ask someone, whether
within or outside of school or work, what you could be doing to improve
your current situation. However, keep in mind that the person whose
opinion you are seeking should be someone known for being balanced and
objective. It will do you NO GOOD to ask someone who is only going to
tell you what you want to hear. Choose someone whose honesty will allow
you to self-reflect upon what you could do to improve and how you can
choose the best path for you.
In short- yes, you can. It is up to you.